Dangerous Little Notebooks
The work at ILYB—live notebooks, written in public, to help you overcome the self-sabotage of relational, creative, and existential fog.
Dangerous Little Notebook, No. 1
Get the hell out (GTHO)
Stop negotiating with chaos,
and reclaim sovereignty.
For women who are financially, emotionally, or structurally dependent on a partner, spouse, or family of origin, and who feel their options—and life—contracting because of it. This isn't about whether you love them, or even that you’ll necessarily leave them or cut them out of your life. It's about the fact that you can't think clearly when your options feel limited by your situation. The fog isn't a character flaw. It's what happens when leverage is missing. This notebook is a map back to it.
Dangerous Little Notebook, No. 2
Get out of your own way (GOOYOW)
And create what you were meant to create.
For artists, writers, and anyone doing serious intellectual or creative work who knows exactly what they want to make, understands resistance, and still can't move. You've read the books, nodded along, and are still not making the thing. This notebook helps name the enemy—and dismantle it, through a minimum viable practice, a “working-out-loud-and-in-public” mandate, and specific protocols for getting the work out of your head and into the world.
Dangerous Little Notebook, No. 3
Everybody’s lost (EL)
Find your footing anyway.
For anyone trying to orient themselves when the structures they built their life around have quietly stopped working, things like stable careers, trustworthy institutions, reliable leadership, affordability, community—just to name a few. This isn't a personal failing. It's a civilizational fracture that has a response. This notebook won't fix the world or offer false comfort, but it will hand you a working compass and walk alongside you while you learn to use it.
Trying to find your way?
Start with the “Get the hell out” diagnostic. It’s free, takes ten minutes, and there are no right answers. It simply helps you see your situation— clearly, before you do anything else.
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